I have been in a dating rut for the last year. Despite giving it a good try I have not clicked with any of these women, and for all sorts of different reasons. My coworker called me out a couple weekends ago after watching me duck a bad date at a happy hour. She called me a perfectionist and said I needed to lower my standards. Am I being too picky because I am afraid of letting someone in, or are my standards within the range of normal? The line between perfectionism and intimacy issues is a thin, slippery one.
No, You Aren’t Perfect…But Should You Settle?
Take The Dating Quiz To See If Your Standards Are Too High
Some people are into coffee. I get how not every guy is into me. At least, according to some people. And he still lived at home with his mom…at His reasoning? Sorry, but my standards are as follows:
Are Your Dating Standards Too High?
So first things first, this is going to be a long one. I do occasionally go out with my friends on the weekends, but that tends to be the exception, not the rule. So my question is, about a year ago, I was set up with a guy that some friends of mine thought would really click with me.
For many men, to compromise on dealbreakers is way worse than being single. Or do you determine whether your standards are legitimately too high or too low, for that matter? Are they legitimate requirements to ensure a high quality of life, grounded in self-respect? Or are they excuses based on fear, in place to conveniently avoid real intimacy? As long as your standards for a woman are consistent with what you are offering her as well, they are legitimate.